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 Post subject: meeting girls who appreciate my advances
PostPosted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 6:09 am 
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First of all, I know that the title makes me sound ridiculously bitter toward women, but I'm not here to say "Girls suck because they don't like my advances!" I want to know how to meet the kind of girl that would be receptive toward my particular brand of romance.

Here's what happened...

I met a girl on OkCupid. We met up and had coffee. It ended on a positive note. She even said she wanted to see me again.
Years ago, I made a girl lose interest in me because I was being way too persistent / clingy. I wanted to avoid making the mistake that I made in the past with this new girl. I decided to be really careful this time, and avoid smothering the girl in attention
Over the next three days, I texted her and posted on her Facebook, but I was sure to send very few messages so that I wouldn't look desperate / insecure. (One Facebook post per day, two texts per day. She always responded.)

I asked her if she had any plans for the weekend, and she didn't respond. However, I can see that she's online and active, so she's clearly decided to ignore me; I must have made a very bad impression with the few messages that I sent her over the past few days.

Looking back over my own messages, I can see that even though I only sent her a handful of messages, I was acting very "Please like me back! Please like me back!" in every message. I don't think I can change that; that's who I am. I'm lonely, and, admittedly, I'm actually quite desperate for someone to reciprocate my feelings.

My question is, where can I find a girl who is going to be okay with that? I'm the type of person who wants to send a dozen texts an hour to the girl I like. I'm the type of person who falls head-over-heels in love after one meeting. I've just proven that there's no point in trying to hide who I am, because girls can always tell.

It's not a matter of hiding how desperate / clingy / love-starved I am. It's a matter of finding a girl who doesn't care.
My question to you is...how exactly do I meet a girl who won't instantly disqualify me for being desperate?


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PostPosted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 6:12 am 
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 Post subject: Re: meeting girls who appreciate my advances
PostPosted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 6:34 am 
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my two cents... wouldn't it be better to learn to control your emotions and impulses more in hopes of securing an ultimately healthier relationship? I just don't think loving out of desperation is too good for anyone. you need to practice leaving some of that baggage behind. plus I'm not sure how attractive a desperate person is to most people. If you seem too easy there is not much of challenge for anyone to get interested in/ intrigued by... anyway good luck


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 Post subject: Re: meeting girls who appreciate my advances
PostPosted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 8:31 am 
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 Post subject: Re: meeting girls who appreciate my advances
PostPosted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 9:19 am 
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thuss65 wrote:
It's not a matter of hiding how desperate / clingy / love-starved I am.


Actually, it entirely is.

It's ok to send her the first text. Next time its her turn to text first. Twice a day every day plus a facebook is too much.

Sending messages that imply "like me, like me" in the very beginning might as well say "I'm annoying, I'm annoying"

Seriously, you have to hold way back at all costs for at least the first month till the ball gets rolling. Then you go the speed of the ball. If you go faster than the ball, you'll be out there by yourself again, while her and the ball are going "dude, wtf"

Hopefully you'll find someone desperate too and you won't have to hold back so much for so long.


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Maybe try not falling so hard so fast and experiment with the use of back-handed compliments.

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find an uglier girl.


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 Post subject: Re: meeting girls who appreciate my advances
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Or a fatty.

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That's what he said.

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 Post subject: Re: meeting girls who appreciate my advances
PostPosted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 4:33 pm 
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seriously. who doesn't think fat first when ugly is mentioned? women and their marilyn monroe...


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 Post subject: Re: meeting girls who appreciate my advances
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This thread would've been so much better three years ago.

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 Post subject: Re: meeting girls who appreciate my advances
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Marilyn Monroe was a twit though.

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Owl_Farmer wrote:
This thread would've been so much better three years ago.

Can't you say that about every thread?

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nah wrote:
find an uglier girl.

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Spike wrote:
nah wrote:
find an uglier girl.

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is that owl farmers girl?


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cutuphalfdead wrote:
Owl_Farmer wrote:
This thread would've been so much better three years ago.

Can't you say that about every thread?

I guess.

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Real sex with a female is by no means guaranteed in today's most confusing casual sex market. Thankfully, there are many stimulating and most satisfactory masturbation aids currently available. And if you felt the need to take things to relationship level you could set up their own facebook pages and reply to your own posts to them. Typing left-handed would yield best results, obv.

I personally recommend Hawthorne Wipes.

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knee tunes kinda dominated this thread

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cutuphalfdead wrote:
You did the right thing by coming here.


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