Joined: Sat Jan 07, 2012 5:13 am Posts: 1092 Location: Guarulhos - Brazil Gender: Male
So, I got this childhood friend that is probrably my best friend, the only one that, after the years, kept beign my friend. Well, he (Aparently) is passing trough some bad phase of his life, and everytime we got to talk, all he he says is bitching, always bithcing about something, evertime saying that "his life sucks" or "I hate everything". Even if he got a really good job that HE LIKES, have a great family that is always supporting him and is a fucking great guitar player... The thing is, this "phase" ias about 2 years now, he was great when he was dating a girl.... But she left him for other dude some years ago...
I know he is depressed because of the bitch that cheated on him... But its been more than 2 years that all I hear is him bitching about his life... Am I beign selfish? I mean, he is my friend, but I'm tired of hear his bitching about how shitty his life is (when its not)...
Joined: Sat Oct 16, 2004 11:17 pm Posts: 13551 Location: is a jerk in wyoming Gender: Female
not for nothing but when did you become the answer to this guys' problems? look, if this person is having issues, that's normal- you can't change that, all you can do it be his friend. otherwise, it's not your issue. not being a dick, just telling you it's not your responsibility, you just be his friend, nothing else to do about it.
Joined: Fri Mar 24, 2006 11:39 pm Posts: 9251 Location: Somewhere Expansive Gender: Male
I had a friend who's brother died and as a result my friend became a bit of an addict and also extremely cynical about his own life. A couple month's ago I looked him in the face and told him that we could give him a year to be depressed but at a point he had to pick up and move on again. If it was an issue of him talking about shit more i would be there for that, but the point was he could not go on wasting his own life. I think he is slowly getting better but the bottom line is, that if he completely falls off the wagon I am done with him. I have expectations about my relationships and I expect that people hold me to a standard too. Tell him you love him and to smarten the fuck up. If he can't find a reason to live why should you waste time investing in him?
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