i wonder how other people deal with this. i was hanging out with some people saturday night. they were really nice. but sometimes, someone will go on with a story and i have trouble listening or showing that i care. and those times when i can't focus on focusing, i start looking around or interupting the conversation, though that's not my intent.
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I do that too... sometimes my friends go on long rants that I don't really care about, or that I do care about but stop caring after a while. I do my best to try and pay attention, but it's really difficult at times.
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i stay away from people and just dont have conversations unless i am truly interrested in what they have to say solves this problem, cause when i do talk to people it is only cause i truly care about what they are saying
I do that too... sometimes my friends go on long rants that I don't really care about, or that I do care about but stop caring after a while. I do my best to try and pay attention, but it's really difficult at times.
yeah. so i'm wondering, should i pretend i care when i don't or what?
working at the espresso stand, i listen to people alot that i don't know. and i just get so sick of pretending to be interested. it's different with people i know, but it can still happen after a while
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Theresa wrote:
LostDog1079 wrote:
I do that too... sometimes my friends go on long rants that I don't really care about, or that I do care about but stop caring after a while. I do my best to try and pay attention, but it's really difficult at times.
yeah. so i'm wondering, should i pretend i care when i don't or what?
working at the espresso stand, i listen to people alot that i don't know. and i just get so sick of pretending to be interested. it's different with people i know, but it can still happen after a while
well, if they're customers that are talking to you, you have to fake it and pretend to be interested if you want them to want to come back for more coffee, yanno?
a lot of the time i don't like to fake interest in what people are saying and as a result people in my day to day life think i'm an asshole at times. which, sucks, and i don't have many friends because of it (among other things) but, what can you do? if there's someone talking about something i really don't care about, i'd much rather not be uncomfortable or bored. most of the time people tend to talk about stupid, insignificant stuff anyway for the sake of having a conversation and breaking the awkward silences and i hate that. no wonder i'm no good at relationships.
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Theresa wrote:
i wonder how other people deal with this. i was hanging out with some people saturday night. they were really nice. but sometimes, someone will go on with a story and i have trouble listening or showing that i care. and those times when i can't focus on focusing, i start looking around or interupting the conversation, though that's not my intent.
i thought this would be about that night we spent together...
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a lot of the time i don't like to fake interest in what people are saying and as a result people in my day to day life think i'm an asshole at times. which, sucks, and i don't have many friends because of it (among other things) but, what can you do? if there's someone talking about something i really don't care about, i'd much rather not be uncomfortable or bored. most of the time people tend to talk about stupid, insignificant stuff anyway for the sake of having a conversation and breaking the awkward silences and i hate that. no wonder i'm no good at relationships.
If someone isn't paying attention to me when I'm talking to them (Especially after they've initiated the convo by asking me "how's life?") I just make it a point to never talk to them again.
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i wonder how other people deal with this. i was hanging out with some people saturday night. they were really nice. but sometimes, someone will go on with a story and i have trouble listening or showing that i care. and those times when i can't focus on focusing, i start looking around or interupting the conversation, though that's not my intent.
i thought this would be about that night we spent together...
i wonder how other people deal with this. i was hanging out with some people saturday night. they were really nice. but sometimes, someone will go on with a story and i have trouble listening or showing that i care. and those times when i can't focus on focusing, i start looking around or interupting the conversation, though that's not my intent.
i thought this would be about that night we spent together...
No, that moaning and screaming was real
Did you stub your toe?
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i wonder how other people deal with this. i was hanging out with some people saturday night. they were really nice. but sometimes, someone will go on with a story and i have trouble listening or showing that i care. and those times when i can't focus on focusing, i start looking around or interupting the conversation, though that's not my intent.
i thought this would be about that night we spent together...
No, that moaning and screaming was real
Did you stub your toe?
are you comparing mecca's appendage to the size of a toe?
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Theresa wrote:
mecca2687 wrote:
Theresa wrote:
i wonder how other people deal with this. i was hanging out with some people saturday night. they were really nice. but sometimes, someone will go on with a story and i have trouble listening or showing that i care. and those times when i can't focus on focusing, i start looking around or interupting the conversation, though that's not my intent.
i thought this would be about that night we spent together...
No, that moaning and screaming was real
uhh... i meant that i was faking orgasms
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I have a reputation amongst family members that i often just stop listening during conversations, it is irritating for them when i do this but not half as irritating as it is for me to listen to a long winded story about my mothers most recent home invasion of termites. If i am talking to work people or something where i am being paid to give a shit what they are saying i tend to move my eyebrows around a lot and really concentrate on appearing like i am interested, this prevents my mind from wandering and thus now i can move each eye brow individually with great skill.
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1 nad short wrote:
I have a reputation amongst family members that i often just stop listening during conversations, it is irritating for them when i do this but not half as irritating as it is for me to listen to a long winded story about my mothers most recent home invasion of termites. If i am talking to work people or something where i am being paid to give a shit what they are saying i tend to move my eyebrows around a lot and really concentrate on appearing like i am interested, this prevents my mind from wandering and thus now i can move each eye brow individually with great skill.
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mecca2687 wrote:
1 nad short wrote:
I have a reputation amongst family members that i often just stop listening during conversations, it is irritating for them when i do this but not half as irritating as it is for me to listen to a long winded story about my mothers most recent home invasion of termites. If i am talking to work people or something where i am being paid to give a shit what they are saying i tend to move my eyebrows around a lot and really concentrate on appearing like i am interested, this prevents my mind from wandering and thus now i can move each eye brow individually with great skill.
see this is a guy who knows what i'm talking about
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see this is a guy who knows what i'm talking about
seconded!