swear to god it aint me btw

i need to get her to stop drinkin..bad..refuses help..tried to get help in anyway possible, no luck

she really dont have many people to turn to either..just drinks her face off every single night

wtf to do??

it's basically one of those situations where the person will stop when they want to stop

have you tried talking to her?

the thing is shes a friend of a friend..and my friend who knows her was a mess (not drunk, but upset) last night..she was telling me they did everything in their power to get her to get hlep..no good..

what it boils down to is that she has hardly anything goin for her, and the boozins whats holdin her back/makin it worse..

true but the problem is that my friend is just overburdened dealing with her, and she cant take it anymore..she wants her to get her life back on track, but doesnt know what to do for her

Trying to make an alcoholic stop drinking is nearly impossible though. I've been in a situation like this, and I tried to talk to my friend about it, and he blew me off. He really fucked up one night on his own, and that's what changed his outlook. It's thin ice to tread on as well, because if you or your friend drink a lot she's gonna see you at hypocrites and totally ignore what you have to say. An alcoholic will find any way or reason to validate the behavior.

thats what we were thinkin last night

but fuck, what do we do for her??

bugs, this blows. it's true that there is only so much you can do and they mostly have to work on disciplining themselves.

short of dragging her to rehab and standing guard over her the entire time, I'm not sure there's much you can do.

Agreed...these are always weird and fucked up situations

no parents?

does she drive drunk?

i think its a little more than discipline mowbs

anyone i know who has overcome any kinda of addiction goes to those AA/NA meetings. those things seem to help

see im really bummed about my friend, whos at the center of this..tryin to get her through it..i dont even know what to tell her

I had a good friend who was what I think of as a functional alcoholic. She'd get a 12 pack of beer every night after work, drink the whole thing, go to sleep, get up the next day, go to work, and do it all over again.

She would also get completely wasted about three times a month- usually weekends, she didn't really think she had a problem...

She got into a car accident, punctured her lung, was arrested (in the hospital, they handcuffed her to her hospital bed while her lung was still collapsed) she lost her license, nearly lost her kids (they were in their teens by this time), and her marriage fell apart.

Even after all that, she didn't stop drinking.

She's better now- although I believe she still drinks, but tells me not as often...
but it was a decision she had to arrive at on her own- and even now I worry that she'll fall into that hole again.
Alcohol isn't easy...

have you tried fucking her sister?

this is bugs, im willing to bet he has

everytime i drink its another reason to never do it again

At some point you (and your friend) have to realize that it's not your job to make sure the other person lives their life the way that you think it's best for them. It's great that you want to help, even that you feel obligated to do something, but in all honesty your responsibility is to make sure that you do the right thing for yourself and accept that other people make their own choices, as clouded as their judgement may be as a result of those choices.

It does suck. It's difficult to watch. Hope for the best.