Hello Everyone.
I post here sometimes. I've changed my name for this post just so in the future I can engage in real political conversation without this post playing any role in it.


Anyway. My wife and I are 26 and we have been swinging for the last 4 years. We have great fun going to parties and being a bit different than everyone else. There are very few people in our lives that know what we do and we like to keep it that way. I thought I'd post this today so that anyone that had any questions about swinging could ask and I could answer them. I don't know if this will be interesting or not, but it's something to do on a Tuesday!

I'll bite - why'd you bother getting married?

Would it piss you off if your wife fell in love with another swinger and left you?

And if you ran into her at another party. Would you swing with her again?

for the same reasons that everyone else gets married. we love each other very much. Swinging isn't something we do every second of every day, nor does it define who we are. Think of it as a hobby.

We love each other very much, we just enjoy fucking other people.

Odd.

Sure it would piss me off but I'm not worried about that at all. She has no reason to cheat. As for falling in love with another person. Well I guess you have about the same odds of that as any other person.

I'm sure you're honest enough to admit even with the person you love sex isn't always about love. And yeah you pretty much nailed it on the head. Does sex always have to be about love? I don't think that's being honest at all.

No, but having sex with someone other than the person you ARE in love with cheapens the moments you have with the person you love. You know, the moments that are supposed to be special?

Hey, if you're both happy, great. I just don't get it.

Do you always use protection when you are swinging?


And if the protection broke and your wife got pregnant by another or you impregnated another woman would you be happy about bringing that child into this world?

Does it bother you to know that half the guys your wife has sex with have a bigger penis than you?

Some people can separate love and emotion from sexual acts. However, to me, being married means the theoretical inseparability of sex and love. A lot of people do cheat on their spouses and part of me wonders if this is a solution. Just stay away from my husband. Stone Gossard.

How sure are you about that? Perhaps if you've ever cheated it would come close but still isn't the same. My guess is that you are assuming that it would cheapen the moment.

No, I know it would. You see, sex is something that I do only with him. That's what makes it special. If I did it with anyone, why is it special with him?

i think a lot of people are like this... i have two really good friends that are married and both of them are always kind of hinting about swinging... ive told both couples about the other couple, but i think it's obvious a lot easier to talk about it than actually doing it...

me, i would never subject my girlfriend to this... only because im kind of the jealous type... couldnt handle thinking about her with another guy... and i know she couldnt think about me being with another woman either

i do wonder this though... is it orgy-like, or is it you go into this bedroom with my wife and i'll go in here with yours?... i think the orgy would be easier to handle...

yep we use protection and if anything ever happened that would be something we'd deal with when it happened. we're not that big on planning for every thing that can go wrong in life. You drive your car everyday but don't limit what you want to do by the fact you may get in an accident at any moment. You take reasonable precautions and live your life as best you can.

Nope, I'm sure some guys are bigger but why would that bother me? I am much more than one body part.

Well even with one person you have to admit there are different kinds of sex you have. Sometimes is very intimate and sometimes is probably rough and rowdy. Specialness doesn't have to be defined my monogamy.

I don't find it odd at all. One problem that I think exists in society is the failure to dissociate love from sex.

Anyway, you sure have made some memorable first posts to this form, Man Is NoMan. Welcome to the board.

What do you talk about on the way home from a swinger's party? Do you discuss the people you just had sex with, or is it more like "Did you remember to get milk or should we stop?"