You don't have to worry about how the school will be. You only have to teach her not to do dumb shit and be a parent to her. If she doesn't show her tits all over the internet, and fuck some guy because she thinks she really likes him, you won't have to worry about the subsequent harassment that comes from her classmates.

This is more about the complete and utter failures of the parents in this girls life more than anything.

Shit. I just ruined my own day.

Fuck. Literally as I was writing that, my wife was babbling on in the background, she got on the subject of elementary school, and she told me about a boy with fetal alcohol syndrome who would try to pay other children to play with him because he was so lonely.

I'm going to fucking bed.

I once knew a guy who quit RM because everyone picked on him for believing in Tarot cards.

Are you a parent of a teenaged girl?

You're absolutely right. Kids only pick on other kids when they have it coming.

Don't worry, fathers. As long as you teach your daughter not to dress like a whore she'll never get raped.

Thank goodness!

You've got to be fucking kidding me.

Maybe if we didn't condone people shaming her for her behavior in the first place, she'd still be alive today. I've always thought you've gotten a bad rap on this forum, but on this general issue you just keep me shaking my head.

The Phoebe whats-her-face incident also involved boy(s), did it not? I don't know if there's a lesson here other than girls can be cruel. Boys too, they just probably aren't as good at it.

Do you really have to be a parent of a teenaged girl to criticize the failures of the adults here?

There's a difference between kids picking on kids, and this. She might have been picked on for wearing not cool clothes, or being bad at sports, but this is a whole 'nother order of bullshit. Posting your tits on the internet has gotta be the dumbest thing a teenage girl can possible do aside from participating in a sex tape. Anyhow, where the fuck were the cops going after the person blackmailing and distributing child porn? Did her parents know? Sure seems like they did. Adult failures from beginning to end.

Fuck it man. Don't teach daughters anything. Everyone else should simply respect everything they do and all of their personal choices. Surely there is no pragmatic justification to teaching your thirteen year old daughter to not show her tits online, fuck guys simply because she thinks they like her, and dressing like a trashy slut at the mall or the amusement park. What the fuck is being a parent now anyway? She just needed her freedom or something.

Identity thieves should just learn to respect the identities of others. We shouldn't have to adjust our actions and behavior to prevent them from doing bad shit.

Wait - what? There's an ENORMOUS difference between: "what were you thinking, you can't do that, it's extremely dangerous!" and what her classmates did. There's a world of difference between constructive criticism from mature adults and running someone into the ground in complete and total humiliation and physical abuse. There is a world of difference between shaming someone and taking positive corrective action. The parent, teachers, school counselors, and police should be taking a completely different and more professional route around sexting to protect children and prosecute those that exploit these actions than the girls in the locker room and on the internet.

This is an awful false dichotomy you establish here where we either shame her, or just let her do what she wants. As if doing what she wants was the intelligent, responsible, HEALTHY thing to do in the first place.

Fuck it, why do we even have statutory rape laws. Thirteen year old girls should just be able to do whatever they want.

We have an interesting school choice in our future. We live in a good neighborhood in the City of Buffalo but unfortunately have little choice as far as public schools go. There is one good elementary public school that is a test in (how does a pre-K student test in?) and a couple of so-so charter schools. There are, however, good private schools and also good Catholic schools. Our other option, and the one my wife prefers, is to move to a suburb with good public schools. I find myself wondering if bullying is just as bad in Catholic or Private schools ( I went to public schools from elementary through my Masters degree). The quality of the education is obviously the most important part of the choice but stories like this make me consider private schools for other reasons as well.

We took the "move to the expensive suburb" option. Private schools around DC are very expensive ($25-45k) so we didn't consider that an option in case we wanted to have a second child. We were fortunate that southern Montgomery County, Maryland schools are basically as good as you can get in the public school arena. Home prices are awful ($600k+) but it evens out when you consider the cost of private schools. It's worth it though as I went to a magnate school (busing white kids to an otherwise 80% working class black area to attend a segregated school-in-a-school to boost test scores) and there is no way I am putting my kid through that.

I do worry about bullying though. If you kid goes to a school where parents are mostly doctors and lawyers (upper middle class), there will be social and academic pressures that may be too much for some kids and lead to situations like that video on the last page.

The suburbs are much more affordable in WNY so it would be a much easier move for us. It would be a shame as I've put a lot of work into our house and hate to leave it and also love living in the city. (My wife and I both work within 5 miles of our house. I can bike in the good weather.) I can't even imagine spending 25-45K for a private school. We're looking at 12-15K for private and 6-10K for Catholic if we go that route.

Good point. Because, as I'm sure everyone here can attest, children who are properly raised by their parents will never make poor choices.

I don't know. I agree with LittleWing here, guys. A 15yr old girl who gets talked into flashing her tits on the webcam when her parents are out of the room is clearly a whore and should thank her lucky stars that she isn't sucking cock for cigarettes under an overpass, and it's clearly the parents' fault because everyone knows that when a parent teaches their kid the facts of life that child follows their advice immediately and without fail, especially high school kids! This family deserves all the pain that their child's momentary lapse in judgement has brought them.