how would you react?

a guy i played hockey with, and is probably the last person you would think was gay, apparently has come out of the closet or someone found out he was in it. he listens to shit that would scare geggy.

now the guys i play hockey with are cracking jokes left and right, patting each other on the ass and saying the kids name. i definately think these guys are a bit insecure, like if they talk to him like normal they may catch the gay or something

to me, hes still Le RED, and i have no problem whatsoever if he likes guys or not, hes always been cool with me.

how do you think you would react to a friend coming out to ya, or how did you if he did.

mind you this isnt a guy i hang out with or talk to on the phone, but we always talkl when we see each other.

I'd react just like you did here. Nothing needs to change.

I've only had one friend come out, and not directly TO me. The relationship was probably pretty similar, as I didn't see him a lot, and we had a cursory relationship.

I don't remember "reacting" at all. We hung out when we we would have normally hung out. We drank when we would have normally drank. I never felt the need to say, "so ... you're gay." And he never felt the need to say, "y'know, ... i'm gay now."

I don't even think I stopped pointing out girls that I thought were hot. I figured, he could still tell wheter a girl was attractive or not.

*shrug*

a friend came out to me last year and I called him the next day worried that I didn't make enough of a big deal out of it. My inital reaction was okay that's fine and then we just went on with our day. I wanted him to know that I was flattered he wanted to tell me, that i support him, etc. and he told me that my first reaction was perfect and what he wanted.

I actually confronted a friend who I knew was in a relationship and said "if
you are in a relationship w/ 'blank' and happy then I am happy for you." It worked out great.

Clearly the answer is to disown him. Then see him at a corner bar around Christmas time and beat him into a coma.

No offense, but your friend is lame. Whats the fun of being gay if you aren't effeminate and trendy? If you're just a boring, average guy, and you're gay, then you've gained nothing. Tell your friend to pop his collar more if he's serious about coming out of the closet.

my husband has a long time friend who came out about 4 years ago.

he's a bit of a grease monkey, and really had never shown any signs of being gay at all...so my husband and the rest of the group of friends just didn't really belielve it for like a year. on a related note, this guy has some trouble with truth telling, so it was not uncommon for him to make weird statements liek that.

he got teased and questioned (mostly because of his weirdo story telling), but nothing at all changed within their group of friends, even when they all finally realized that he was was gay for real.

and my sister is gay. when she came out, I said,

"it's about time".

Yeah yeah, sure, Peeps. Your 'friend'.

I'm j/k. You're right. Why react at all? Your friends sound like their being a bunch of insecure, immature asses though. You should call them out on that, it's not worth the other guy getting hurt over it.

Only if he won't make out with you.

My first thought:

"Ha ha...oh well, whatever."

i've had several friends come out to me over the years. most of the time, my reaction is "i know." there's actually only been one person that i've been surprised to learn was gay, and even then, nothing about our relationship changed. i think the only way that it could possibly ever change would be if one of my female friends came out to me and then admitted deep, romantic feelings for me.

i attribute this to the way that i grew up. my "aunts," two ladies that have known me since i was six weeks old, are a lesbian couple. my "uncles," two men that have known me since i was six or seven, are a gay couple. one of my mom's close friends was a drag queen who was so good that he won the miss binghamton pagent, which wasn't for drag queens at all. when i was three, i understood that jerry wore dresses and had tiaras - i didn't understand why, but when i was older, it didn't come as a shock.

well a friend that was in my fraternity turned out to be gay. I guess he hid it for the 4 years I knew him. I wouldn't have cared at all. Who gives a shit, especially if they're not the flaiming type.

that being said guys call other guys gay and fag all the time as a joking insult, i never mean it to be a slight against homos though

I'd be fine

Believe me there's plenty of bi/gay guys that listen to stereotypically heterosexual music.

This is more of a commentary on Binghamton than on how good a drag queen Jerry was.

bang the gay right outta'im