A woman's sex drive begins to plummet once she is in a secure relationship, according to research.
Researchers from Germany found that four years into a relationship, less than half of 30-year-old women wanted regular sex.
Conversely, the team found a man's libido remained the same regardless of how long he had been in a relationship.
Writing in the journal Human Nature, the scientists said the differences resulted from how humans had evolved.
The researchers from Hamburg-Eppendorf University interviewed 530 men and women about their relationships.
They found 60% of 30-year-old women wanted sex "often" at the beginning of a relationship, but within four years of the relationship this figure fell to under 50%, and after 20 years it dropped to about 20%.
In contrast, they found the proportion of men wanting regular sex remained at between 60-80%, regardless of how long they had been in a relationship.
Tenderness
The study also revealed tenderness was important for women in a relationship.
About 90% of women wanted tenderness, regardless of how long they had been in a relationship, but only 25% of men who had been in a relationship for 10 years said they were still seeking tenderness from their partner.
Dr Dietrich Klusmann, lead author of the study and a psychologist from Hamburg-Eppendorf University, believed the differences were down to human evolution.
He said: "For men, a good reason their sexual motivation to remain constant would be to guard against being cuckolded by another male."
But women, he said, have evolved to have a high sex drive when they are initially in a relationship in order to form a "pair bond" with their partner.
But, once this bond is sealed a woman's sexual appetite declines, he added.
He said animal behaviour studies suggest this could be because females may be diverting their sexual interest towards other men, in order to secure the best combinations of genetic material for their offspring.
Or, he said, this could be because limiting sex may boost their partner's interest in it.
Professor George Fieldman, an evolutionary psychologist from Buckinghamshire Chilterns University College, said: "These findings seem to fit in with anecdotal studies and his explanations seem plausible.
"The rational for why a woman's sex drive declines may be down to supply and demand. If something is in infinite supply, the perceived value would drop."
Note to self: Never allow my wife to feel secure
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JimNasium wrote:
Note to self: Never allow my wife to feel secure
I have a friend who might actually be working that angle, resulting in great sexual rewards.
_________________ "Though some may think there should be a separation between art/music and politics, it should be reinforced that art can be a form of nonviolent protest." - e.v.
I have a friend who might actually be working that angle, resulting in great sexual rewards.
Note to self: TRY THIS ANGLE
reality check: if you try this angle, your woman will flee to the next man who makes her feel even remotely secure.
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kiddo wrote:
davidsatelle100 wrote:
B wrote:
JimNasium wrote:
Note to self: Never allow my wife to feel secure
I have a friend who might actually be working that angle, resulting in great sexual rewards.
Note to self: TRY THIS ANGLE
reality check: if you try this angle, your woman will flee to the next man who makes her feel even remotely secure.
I don't know if my friend's wife would agree with you. She'd probably just say ... "Mmmmmphf mmmmmphf mmmmphf."
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kiddo wrote:
davidsatelle100 wrote:
B wrote:
JimNasium wrote:
Note to self: Never allow my wife to feel secure
I have a friend who might actually be working that angle, resulting in great sexual rewards.
Note to self: TRY THIS ANGLE
reality check: if you try this angle, your woman will flee to the next man who makes her feel even remotely secure.
I don't know, make-up sex is usually the best. It might just be time to push it to the next level. Anyway the children will always keep her from running off.
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Clubber wrote:
sounds like she's suffocating. I thought we were talking about BJ's? *slurp slurp*
I'll have to work on my typed sound effects.
_________________ "Though some may think there should be a separation between art/music and politics, it should be reinforced that art can be a form of nonviolent protest." - e.v.
I have a friend who might actually be working that angle, resulting in great sexual rewards.
Note to self: TRY THIS ANGLE
reality check: if you try this angle, your woman will flee to the next man who makes her feel even remotely secure.
I don't know if my friend's wife would agree with you. She'd probably just say ... "Mmmmmphf mmmmmphf mmmmphf."
sometimes those sexual rewards heaped on the husband are the result of the attentiveness of another man.
_________________ cirlces they grow and they swallow people whole half their lives they say goodnight to wives they'll never know got a mind full of questions and a teacher in my soul and so it goes
Joined: Sun Oct 17, 2004 7:19 pm Posts: 39068 Location: Chapel Hill, NC, USA Gender: Male
kiddo wrote:
B wrote:
kiddo wrote:
davidsatelle100 wrote:
B wrote:
JimNasium wrote:
Note to self: Never allow my wife to feel secure
I have a friend who might actually be working that angle, resulting in great sexual rewards.
Note to self: TRY THIS ANGLE
reality check: if you try this angle, your woman will flee to the next man who makes her feel even remotely secure.
I don't know if my friend's wife would agree with you. She'd probably just say ... "Mmmmmphf mmmmmphf mmmmphf."
sometimes those sexual rewards heaped on the husband are the result of the attentiveness of another man.
*snorts milk out of his nose* I've never met anyone who is LESS attentive to his wife. Actually, that might be the key. Well ... that and money.
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