Ok, in high school, this guy was my best friend. Nothing ever came between us and we bailed each other out so manny times. College came, and he went to Pittsburgh. We were still best friends. Every time he came home and shit, we always hung out and stuff. Ya know...same old shit.

Last Thanksgiving, he never came home from school. I didn't think it was that big a deal. We never called each other over the break, but I just assumed he had to do his thing in Pittsburgh over the long weekend.

Then he never came home for the Christmas break. I thought this was peculiar, so I tried calling him a few times and he never got back to me. I thought it was pretty weird that he never returned my calls, but again, I just kind of brushed it off and figured he had his reasons for not coming home.

Then he didn't come at all for the summer. So now I'm thinking, "Ok...something happened." I tried contacting him and didn't hear shit from him. It had to be something big. I assumed it was something he was embarrassed about if he didn't feel like coming home. But he's my guy, ya know? He knows better, and he should've called me. There was nothing else I could do.

So finally, I ran into his brother at the bar. I was so happy, and I asked him about his bro. His mom packed up and moved to Florida with some dude without telling the kids. My friend met a girl and moved to California with her and got her pregnant.

Now, I'm obviously pretty fucked up over this. If he wants to keep something private that's fine, but the least he could've done is returned my calls so I know he's fucking alive. The whole situation is such a shock.

i hear it's hard when guys break your heart

thats some whack shit mowbs

im sure his mom being a whore kinda fucked him up though

not a whore, just a piece of shit. his folks are divorced.

leaving the kids without telling them comes as no surprise to me. my mom did more for that kid than his own mother ever did.

Sounds like he was really greatful, too.

does your mom know whats going on w/ him now?

no. i gotta talk to him. he's gotta call me back or something. im gonna be relentless with phone calls until he gets back to me. i cant leave him a voicemail for some reason. but im gonna text him and let him know that i talked to his bro.

this makes sense. he wasnt coming home because there was nothing for him there. he needed to completely get away, and moving with his girl was his way of doing it. i just want him to know that ill be looking out for him, and he can call me if he needs anything.

i hear ya dude. good luck.

it tough when people grow apart or life pulls them apart

Just reading this thread makes me annoyed that there isn't any whiskey in the house.

Did he not like rap music?

I was pleasantly surprised that there were no gay jokes in this thread. Good to see some maturity around here.

Mowbs,
he's moved on. He's not interested. Leave him a message and wait for him to contact you. If he doesn't, move on and let it be. Don't go harrassing him with calls or anything. He's probably just moved on with his life. Leave him a message, and if he doesn't get back to ya, have a little private grieve for a friendship lost, and move on.

This craic of 'He's gotta call me. I gotta talk to him' is rubbish. That's all about YOU and YOUR (unmet?) needs. That's fuck all to do with your friend. Do yourself a favour and follow the advice I just gave you.

Randall

wanna make out?

tell his bro to make him get in touch w/ you.

maybe folks inferred differently from my original post (which i understand now that i'm looking at it), but i'm much more upset for the situation he is in than the fact he hadn't talked to me in a while.

i talked to him earlier today actually. he doesn't really know the broad too well and that blows. he's a really smart kid. i look forward to meeting this girl and his kid.

Shit. Hope it works out for him. If I believed in all that sending out good vibes crap, I'd be doing it for sure! He must be kinda scared about now. At least he knows you're there if he needs ya.

shouldnt this thread be titled "Dude i knew, but i obviously valued our friendship more than he did?"