By Paul Majendie

LONDON (Reuters Life!) - "Boomerang kids" who treat the family home like a free hotel are driving their parents to distraction, a leading British charity has warned.

Lifestyle clashes abound -- from piles of laundry and mounds of debt to drug and alcohol abuse -- with one parent complaining "our home became a war ground of constant arguments."

Parents seem to seesaw between frustration about their children still living at home and feeling that at least they are happy and safe.

Parentline Plus, has been bombarded with desperate calls from beleaguered parents to their helpline, and is developing a self-help guide for parents with the plaintive title ""Will They Ever Leave The Nest?"

Callers to the helpline are concerned about aggressive behavior -- both verbal and physical -- from their children and worried about their drug and drink consumption.

For "Boomerang kids" are a growing band.

Government figures show that 58 percent of men and 39 percent of women aged 20-24 live with their parents in England.

Weighed down with student debt, battling to get onto the housing ladder, marrying much later than their parents' generation, they find the family home is an easy and attractive option.


The charity said it was no longer safe to assume that once they reach adulthood, young people become independent and trouble-free overnight.

The charity's chief executive Dorit Braun said: ""Living with young adults is as perplexing and concerning as any other stage in a parent's journey, yet parenting strategies seem to end with adulthood as though once children become adults, the parents are off the hook."

She urged the government to provide parents with more information on housing benefits, grants and training for children reluctant to leave home.

After researching the growing problem, the independent charity suggested a set of rules to avoid domestic warfare breaking out on all fronts:

- Get them to pay rent

- Agree on household chores

- Don't wait on them hand and foot

- Speak to them if behavior upsets you

- Be ready to say "I love you but not your behavior."

(Editing by Paul Casciato)

http://www.reuters.com/article/lifestyleMolt/idUSSAT75557420080207

The Brits are just getting to this stage?

That should solve everything.

It's the new generation. Most of my friends from HS are either still at home, or stayed there until they got married. This cracked me up though:

- Get them to pay rent - I do, actually.

- Agree on household chores - That too.

- Don't wait on them hand and foot - HA! Not since I learned to walk.

- Speak to them if behavior upsets you -
- Be ready to say "I love you but not your behavior." - I'd piss myself laughing. Seriously.

I don't even like being in my parents' house for longer than a weekend.

This is feeling more and more like a possibility for me. :/

i did that for a stretch last year.

i don't know your folks, but mine are pretty chill... so it worked out.

Well, at least we can be the IT of home.

oh yeah, that's the worst part.

I can take pleasure on making my mom looking dumb.

*posts picture of HB's bikini-clad madre

This.

I would find second, third, and fourth jobs and seriously consider defaulting on any unsecured debt before I moved back in with my mom.

This.

My greatest fear will never be having to move back in with them at any time, but the idea that they may have to move in with me when they're too old to take care of themselves. Oh the horror...

I have a real problem with this article and its depiction of 20-24 year olds as irresponsible, reckless abusers, when a big chunk of them are casualties of a reduced and competitive job market, or the only work they can find is unpaid internships.

ABC News: Billionaire to Pay Kids to Skip College

Yeah I thought the article was pretty bushleague in that regard.

Chud, is your student debt burden what's constraining you the most financially?

It's the most expensive, non-rent bill that I have. And that's not even including the small chunk of it my parents are helping me pay.

Do you have much credit card debt?

I do not have a credit card.