Most of us have probably either said this to someone, or had it said to us, as a way to end a dating relationship.

If you've said it...how often do you really mean that? I can only think of one person that I've actually stayed friends with...but I use the term "friends" loosely. Then again, I try not to use this line too often.

If you've had it said to you...how do you react? Do you really want to stay friends without the other stuff (romance, sex, etc.)? I for one would just prefer to move on completely and not try to "stay friends." If you weren't ever friends in the first place, then it's not realistic to try and become friends after you've dated the person (IMO).

In summary: No matter which end of this one you find yourself on, I think it's a bullshit line.

right, sometimes you just have to roll up your wristband and move on.

sounds like bullshit to me.

i used this about six months ago with my ex-gf.

at the time we weren't hooking up, but the option was still there i guess. we had broken up awhile back, but we had messed around since then...around christmas time was the last time we had before the incident.

anyways she tried to make out with me a few months ago, and i shot her down. what ensued was a long talk where i basically told her i wasn't attracted to her like i used to be and that i think we'd work better as friends.

so far, it's worked out well.

EDIT: also, it does get weird at some times, but because i'm pretty much over it all, it's worked well. being away at school for some time helped. it gets weird if we hang out too much, though.

i'd edit that if i were you.

whoops, too late now.

fuck.

When I've said it, I've meant:

"Let's not cut this relationship cold-turkey because I'm still getting something out of it. Let's easy it into a friendship and then later into nothing, so I can go on with my life without a jarring break-up."

"can we still hump?? whaddaya say, ol' pal?"

they never say yes to that though

he starts with her back cause that's what he sees
when she's breaking his heart she still fucks like a tease
release to the sky, look him straight in the eye
and tell him that now, that you wish he would die
you'll never touch him again so get what you can
leaving him empty just because he's a man
so good when it ends, they'll never be friends
one more night, that's all they can spend

I don't really want to be 'just friends' with many girls. If it's been determined that I'm not going to ever date you, chances are I'm not going to talk to you a whole lot.

"Let's just be bammers."

This saying has potential, the possible mantra of disillusioned youths.

I've used it and had it used on me. In some instances it's worked and others it hasn't. I agree though, in some cases its a chickenshit cop-out line.

I'm still friends with quite a few of the women i've dated. Not best friends mind you, but we will talk on MSN, or at a party and be pretty civil towards each other.

its not you, its me

I've already been "bammersized"

I never really said that when breaking up with someone. It usually went more like "I don't want to see you anymore" or "This isn't working out for me". I never attempted to remain friends with girls I broke up with. I'm cold like that.

i've only really dated one person..and she said it to me